Connectivity, Mindset and the Power of Showing Up
I recently had a opportunity to share at the Ortega Counseling Centers monthly workshop about three ways we are stronger than we think. It gave me a fantastic opportunity to share my three passions.
Connectivity
As I’ve mentioned before connectivity is a true source of strength for us as humans. Brene Brown describes connectivity as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship. We gain power by connecting to each other. By intentionally making efforts to connect with others we not only increase our own strength but that of those around us.
Mindset
In her book and ted talk Kelly McGonigal describes the power of mindset, identifying that by simply altering our perspective and attitude towards the stress in our lives we can shift it from weighing us down to propelling us forward. She indicates that “chasing meaning is better for our health than trying to avoid discomfort”. When we fix our eyes on the meaning and value of our stress it can actually empower us to be stronger and more at ease in journeys.
Showing up
Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is simply show up when it is most difficult. To be present when we want to run, to get out of bed, to take that step forward. We don’t always give ourselves or the people around us credit for showing up. When we celebrate those small wins the bigger wins feel closer and attainable. Now I’m not suggesting you throw a party for yourself every time you get out of bed and attend to your daily routine but on those days (and you know what I’m talking about) that getting out of bed, clocking in, attempting a conversation with ___ (you know that person that you have had trouble talking to), simply showing up, takes more courage than you think you have - celebrate it, take pride in it, acknowledge that you faced something that was difficult and you showed up.
These three concepts have been the focus of my processing over the last few years. Here are a few questions I ask myself throughout the day:
- Who have I connected with today?
- Who can I make more meaningful connections with?
- What values are motivating me?
- Am I choosing activities that take me away from my core values out of guilt or obligation?
- What do I need to say no to?
- What do I need to say yes (show up) to?
My hope for you is that you will own your small wins, make meaningful connections, see the world with a mindset of strength and you will show up, especially when its difficult.